By Ty Salvant, NOLA Catholic Parenting
Disillusionment is a feeling of disappointment resulting from the discovery that something is not as good as one believed it to be.
Disillusionment can be cyclical, occurring hourly, daily, weekly or monthly, and it can be brief or linger depending on our response to it.
While disillusionment itself isn’t a sin, our response to it can be. Gluttony, wrath, sloth and selfishness are a few that come to mind. Although we can experience disillusionment in every aspect of our lives, usually it occurs with those who are closest to us.
Yes, our family.
When my husband or children’s jokes, comments and actions annoy me, I’m in deep.
When I laser-focus on their areas of struggle, only seeing imperfections and not the attempt to grow, it’s disillusionment.
When I am quick to anger or my usual smile at their entrance is replaced with a look of disappointment, it’s disillusionment.
Regardless of the form it takes, I’m not seeing them the way God sees them. I’m not appreciating the gifts that they are, that they bring to my life, nor the opportunities they provide for me to grow. In turn, I’m not loving them the way God calls us to love.
Instead of offering the gift of my love, I’m offering an exchange of good behaviors. “If you listen, I’ll…”
Recognizing disillusionment is the first step, followed by reconciliation, to acknowledge your sins resulting from disillusionment. That allows us to make the decision to love unconditionally again.
Ty Salvant is a New Orleans native, cradle Catholic and stay-at-home mom. Before that, she was a research associate at LSU Health Sciences Center where she met her husband, Derrick.
They’ve been married for 18 years and have six children. She has been a homeschool teacher of her children for 13 years.
Outside of volunteering, she and her family enjoy going to the movies, playing games and spending time with friends and each other.